The goal of any speech or presentation is to bring about a change in your audience. To change how they think or feel or act, if only in a small way.
So when you’re planning a talk, the question is what is the change you want to bring about? Which raises another question. In the limited time you have available what can you change?
Here’s what you may be able to change in your allotted time on stage: your audience’s feelings, actions, behavior, knowledge, thinking.
For today I’ll just focus on the first — feelings.
Can you change people’s feelings?
Yes, of course you can. Good motivational, inspirational, and after-dinner speakers do it all the time. So do good preachers. Coaches do it during pre-game or half-time talks.
I know, I know — technically, you can’t make people feel anything. People are responsible for their own feelings. You can only create the conditions that allow or encourage people to change their feelings.
Should you change people’s feelings?
Yes, yes, yes. People — even the most button-downed, just-the-facts-ma’am types — aren’t emotionless automatons. If you fail to engage your audience’s feelings — rousing their interest or curiosity, if nothing else — you’re not doing your job as a speaker.
Even the most highly technical presentations need to engage people’s feelings.
What feelings can you evoke?
Your options are almost limitless, depending on your personality and values, your audience’s makeup, your topic, your goal, the event itself. Here are some possibilities. (The definitions are courtesy of dictionary.com. The questions are ones you might want the audience to ask themselves.)
- Curiosity: “The desire to learn or know about anything”
What is this? How does it work? Why are things as they are? What would it be like if they were different?
- Frustration: “A feeling of dissatisfaction, resulting from unfulfilled needs or unresolved problems”
What’s wrong with the current situation or way of doing things? What doesn’t work? What’s the cost of its not working? Why are things so difficult? Isn’t there a better way?
- Loyalty: “A feeling or attitude of devoted attachment and affection”
What are this group’s shared values? How can I become a part of this group? What can I do to contribute to its success?
- Anger: “A strong feeling of displeasure and belligerence aroused by a wrong”
What is wrong with the current situation? What can or should be done about it? Why is it intolerable? Whom does it hurt?
- Hope: “The feeling that what is wanted can be had or that events will turn out for the best”
What would it be like if we were to achieve our goals? Who will benefit and how will they benefit from this change?
- Love: “Affectionate concern for the well-being of others”
Who needs our support? How can we help? What is the “greater good” and how can we contribute to it?
- Pride: “Pleasure or satisfaction taken in something done by or belonging to oneself or believed to reflect credit upon oneself”
What can we do? What challenge can we take on? What are we capable of achieving? How can we excel?
What are the problems of dealing with people’s feelings?
First, you have to be somewhat sophisticated and psychologically savvy when you’re addressing people’s feelings. (Which isn’t to say you need a counseling degree.) It’s relatively easy to stir people up. (Talk show hosts do it all the time.) It’s more difficult to know what to do with them once they’re stirred up. And to bring about some positive or constructive change as a consequence.
Second, feelings are fickle and short-lived.
If people leave your talk on a high, for example, feeling positive and positively euphoric about their ability to create a whole new reality, they will not feel the same way tomorrow morning. I guarantee it. The best you can hope your speech will do — and it’s often a good thing — is change people’s feelings during your speech and immediately afterwards.
What do you think? Agree or disagree? Additional insights? What other feelings do you think a speaker can or should rouse?
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